Off with your Facebook

Attention girls and parents of girls. I would like to discuss a subject which has been vexing me for a number of months. I have a friend whose son is in law school. He is a frum modern boy. When a shidduch is suggested for him, he checks to see if he can see the girl's picture on Facebook. He told his mother that if a girl is stupid enough to have her picture posted on Facebook, for all the world to see, he is not interested in going out with her. He said she should have least put in security measures, so that only her friends can access her profile.

Girls, we are talking about a modern boy who is not in yeshiva all day, but, he too, is not interested in going out with a girl who doesn't follow the precept of "kol kvoda bat melech pnima". How do you know if this guy wasn't your bashert and you blew it by posting your picture?

I was absolutely shocked to see what one of you posted on this site. Yes, you might be pictured in modest attire, but you pose in a provocative manner, unbefitting a bat Yisrael. And then, on your profile page, there is a celebrity look-alike collage which shows your picture juxtaposed in the middle of a circle of pictures of celebrities who most resemble you. Is that what you aspire to in life? Is the most important aspect of your life to resemble Angelina Jolie? I really don't get it.

Married girls-I've seen wedding albums, pictures from honeymoon trips and ski vacations that is none of anyone's business except for your immediate family and friends.

Please, take your profile off Facebook. Try to consider the impact of what you are doing to yourself. If you can't walk out on Facebook, then, at least, block your picture, or eliminate the celebrity look-alike collage from your profile. If you don't want to block your picture, at least have a picture that would befit a high school yearbook. Take gradual steps until you cancel your registration with Facebook altogether.

Who can name the people who left Egypt and participated in the Keriyat Yam Suf? Nachshon ben Aminadav springs to mind, as he was the first to jump into the water. Who will be the first to sign out of Facebook? Post a comment anonymously, indicating what steps you have undertaken. And may Hashem bless you with all that is good and may you find your bashert bekarov.

to be continued.......