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"Where does it say that you have a contract with G-d to have an easy life?"

the Lubavitcher Rebbe



"Failure is not the enemy of success; it is its prerequisite."

Rabbi Nosson Scherman



22 Feb 2012

Inside and out

The following is a devar Torah by Rabbi Dr Raymond Apple.
The portion of T’rumah details the layout and appurtenances of every part of the Tabernacle. One of the most famous verses is Ex. 25:11, which says, mi-bayit umichutz tz’appennu – “you shall overlay the ark with gold, both inside and out”.

The Talmud (Yoma 72b) applies this verse to the human being, and says that these words define a talmid chacham. He must be a golden-class, superior person both inside and out. If his greatness is all on the outside whilst on the inside he is a fallible, problematical personality, he is no talmid chacham. We have to judge someone by how he (or she) is, as an overall human being.

We can extend the Talmudic comment and say that someone who is high-quality in the street shows only part of himself. The other side is what he is like inside his own house. A person who is a tzaddik in his public life but a mean, nasty, tyrannical husband and father at home is no tzaddik. Instead he is a misken, a poor unfortunate who deserves to be pitied, not to be admired. http://www.oztorah.com/2012/02/inside-out-trumah/

The last paragraph reminds me of what my friend's daughter told her mother. The young woman trained as a beautician and she is invited to people's houses to give manicures, etc. She told her mother that she received a surprising education about people. The ones who are so friendly on the street treat her miserably inside their houses. The ones that seem a bit standoffish when she meets them in public are the ones who offer her a drink and treat her royally in their homes. Don't worry, she didn't say any names because she is very discreet about her clients and it wouldn't be right in terms of speaking lashon hora.

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