29:26 And Laban said: 'It is not so done in our place, to give the younger before the first-born.
ויאמר לבן לא יעשה כן במקומנו לתת הצעירה לפני הבכירה
I visited a friend the other day and, as she was talking on the phone, I started reading an article from the Yated about shidduchim and how one can let a good shidduch slip away. The author told a story about a boy who asked a Rav to propose a shidduch. When the Rav suggested someone, the boy asked to see a picture. The Rav's wife heard the request and responded with the Passuk from Bereishit above. But she pronounced the word "tzeirah" (younger) as tzurah (image) and the word bechorah (older) as bochurah (young woman). The Rebbetzin was telling the young man that it was not appropriate to ask for a picture before meeting the young woman.
My friend had recently suggested a shidduch. The mother of the girl made all sorts of enquiries about how smart he was, about his looks, and so on. It took my friend's son to point out to the woman that she had never asked about his middot.
Interesting post and video. Seems the common denominator between Yaakov Avinu and the "Alshich" (not Ashlich!)is that neither got it right on the first try!
ReplyDeleteAlso, the fine Rebbetzin is worthy heir to the originator of her mangled quote, had Jacob but been able to get a look at his bride before the wedding much heartbreak might have been avoided...