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23 Jun 2010

The bride's forefinger

Prince Albert II of Monaco, son of the late Hollywood actress Grace Kelly, is to marry South African former Olympic swimmer and model Charlene Wittstock, the prince's office said in a statement on Wednesday.
http://uk.reuters.com/article/idUKTRE65M1MB20100623?feedType=RSS&feedName=topNews
At age 52, it's about time.

And speaking of weddings, the following is an excerpt from an email by Rabbi Eli Mansour about the placing of a ring on the bride's forefinger.

It is customary for the groom to place the ring specifically on the bride’s forefinger, meaning, the finger immediately next to the thumb. One reason for this custom is that the forefinger is the finger that people use most frequently, such as when they point to written text when teaching children. Therefore, placing the ring on the forefinger helps to publicize the Kiddushin to the greatest extent, informing everybody present that the bride has been betrothed.Others explain this custom as a subtle allusion to the nineteenth chapter of Tehillim, which makes reference to marriage (verse 6 - "Ve'hu Ke'hatan Yoseh Me'hupato"). This chapter also contains five consecutive five-word phrases (verses 8-10), each of which has Hashem's Name as its second word: 1) "Torat Hashem Temima Meshibat Nafesh" 2) "Edut Hashem Ne'emana Mahkimat Peti"3) "Pikudeh Hashem Yesharim Mesameheh Leb"4) "Misvat Hashem Bara Me'irat Enayim"5) "Yir'at Hashem Tehora Omedet La'ad"The five words in each phrase correspond to the five fingers on the hand, and the second word - Hashem's Name - parallels the second finger on the hand, the forefinger. By placing the ring on the forefinger, the groom brings to mind the Name of Hashem which is the second word in these phrases which appear in a chapter of Tehillim that mentions marriage. Through marriage, a man and woman complete the Name of God. The letter "Yod" in the word "Ish" ("man") combines with the "Heh" in the word "Isha" ("woman") to form the divine Name of "Yod"-"Heh." The groom therefore places the ring on the bride's forefinger to allude to the Name of Hashem which is completed through their marriage.If the groom mistakenly placed the ring on a different finger, the betrothal is nevertheless valid.Rav Moshe Feinstein (Russia-New York, 1895-1986), in his Iggerot Moshe (Eben Ha'ezer, vol. 3, Siman 18), rules that a bride and groom should not perform a "double ring ceremony" under the Hupa. It is customary among many non-Jews and non-observant Jews for the bride and groom to exchange rings at the wedding, as opposed to the traditional Jewish practice that only the groom gives a ring to the bride. There is absolutely no Halachic significance to a ring given by the bride to the groom, and doing so under the Hupa might violate the prohibition of imitating the practices of the gentiles. If the bride wants to give the groom a ring, she may give it to him after the Hupa ceremony, during the Yihud (seclusion). She should not give him a ring under the Hupa.Summary: Before the groom gives the bride the ring or coin for the betrothal, it should be shown to the witnesses who affirm that it is worth a "Shaveh Peruta." They should not make any other comments, and should not say - even jokingly - that the ring is worth more than a "Shaveh Peruta." The groom must ensure that the ring or coin legally belongs to him before he gives it to the bride. When betrothing with a ring, it is customary to place the ring specifically on the forefinger, but if the groom mistakenly placed it on a different finger, the betrothal is nevertheless valid. A bride and groom should not perform a double ring ceremony. If the bride wishes to give her groom a ring, she should do so only after the Hupa ceremony.
http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=1960

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