Molding a mate

Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis responds to a reader about giving people a second chance when they are known to have flawed character traits.

As I recently told a young woman who came to me thinking she would mold her fiancée once they became husband and wife, “Take a good look at him. What you see now is what he is, and after marriage things do not become better. If anything, they become worse. He no longer needs to romance you. He got what he wanted. If a change can be made, it must occur before the marriage. And this change cannot be just for few days or few weeks or even a few months.” http://www.jewishpress.com/judaism/rebbetzins-viewpointrebbetzin-jungreis/broken-hearts/2014/02/14/