As we read about the shidduch of Yitchak and Rivka in this week's parsha, Hamodia has an excellent op-ed about shidduchim which should be read by all.
Hagaon Harav Avraham Yaakov Pam, zt”l, would stress that the shidduch process isn’t a “shopping market,” where buyers inspect produce and then decide to keep on looking to see whether they will find something better.
Every Jewish girl is a bas melech, who deserves to be treated with the greatest dignity and respect. The very notion of being put on a “list” of candidates is deeply degrading. Asking sources of information to compare and contrast prospective suggestions — whether they are boys or girls —is unfair and inappropriate. Offering a half dozen names to sift through and compare is demeaning to the individual and nearly meaningless. Every Yid is a priceless, incomparable treasure and must be considered on his or her own merits. Where is our sensitivity, our care in choosing our words?
Read more: http://hamodia.com/2013/10/22/matchmaker-matchmaker/
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There is no doubt every Jew is a "Ben or Bat shel melech", That has nothing to do with looking for someone who is suitable for you. And if you decide to move on to someone else, that would be the smartest decision if it isn't suitable for you- better happen before than after the wedding.
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