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"Where does it say that you have a contract with G-d to have an easy life?"

the Lubavitcher Rebbe



"Failure is not the enemy of success; it is its prerequisite."

Rabbi Nosson Scherman



2 Jul 2012

Coping with life

The following is a guest post by Josh Anderson.

Tips For Coping With Life That Every Adult Should Take To Heart
Life is never easy and it is not supposed to be. The most enjoyable moments are often produced by an individual's hardest labors. Unfortunately, learning how to appreciate the ebb and flow of human existence is something that many people never manage. Following are a few tips for coping with life that will show you how to appreciate your own existence to the fullest.

Know Who Your Real Friends Are

Try to steer clear of people who are only your friends when the sun is shining on your side of the street. When stormy clouds roll over these are the same individuals who will be hard to find. The best friends to have are those who will stand by your side come what may. They do not take pleasure in tearing others down with their mouths and they are not attracted to others based upon what they have. Surround yourself with people who love you for you and who remain loyal even when the going gets tough. False friends and their many betrayals can make the trials of life far more difficult than they really have to be.

Stop Worrying About What Others Think

Don't let what other people are saying about you sway your actions or the way that you feel about yourself. Those who are extremely invested in analyzing your life, your actions, your financial circumstances or any other personal aspect of you, are typically people who do not have fulfilling lives of their own. Live your life and live it to the fullest, absent of any concern about how others might perceive you. Stay true to your goals, your ethics and your ultimate loves and all things will be well, even when your ears are burning with the gossip of naysayers.

Never Be Afraid To Throw The Towel In
It takes courage to fail. The people who are afraid to fail in life are generally the very same ones who never try their hands at anything new, adventurous or exciting. The hardest part of failing, however, is often simply admitting your failure and knowing when to stop wasting your efforts. Take stock of where your time, emotions and resources are invested and make a dedicated effort to stop investing these things in failed efforts. This will allow you to take your life in utterly new directions, without embarrassment or fear. To have tried at all makes you courageous and understanding when to quit investing yourself in something that has proven itself unable to improve makes you wise.

Pamper Yourself More
Taking care of those you love is good, but it is vital that you take care of yourself first. Do things that make you feel loved, pampered and appreciated. When you do, you will stop looking to others for the validation, attention and support that only you can give yourself.

Work To Achieve Balance
Overworking, over-playing and overachieving in any way will eventually drain you. Work hard instead at achieving balance. Take care of your physical self, your mental self, your home, your children, your family and your soul. If you place all of your efforts and energies in only one life area, only this one area of life is guaranteed to succeed.

Never Be Afraid To Cry
Sorrow, grief, loss, sadness and any other negative emotion that you can think of are all essential for enjoying a passionate and fulfilling existence. You will never know true happiness until you have experienced its opposite. Loss will help you to appreciate what you still have and your tears will make you exceedingly grateful for all of the things that make you smile.

In the modern world, people are far too concerned with maintaining a constant state of happiness. People who suffer from mild to moderate depression are far too likely to seek medical attention for what is commonly a very natural and necessary experience. Sometimes, it is good to relish both the bad and the phenomenal, to appreciate your ability to experience a great range and depth of emotion. When you understand that it is perfectly natural and okay to feel disheartened, disenfranchised and even utterly alone in life, you will also know that these things will certainly pass away with time. You will also have much more realistic expectations about how life really works and you might even stop looking for the grass to be greener somewhere else. When you accept life for the complex and often unpredictable experience that it is, you will be truly content, no matter where you are, what you own or what you are doing.

Ryan O'Haver writes about self help, personal finance & finding cheap boat insurance.
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