בס׳ד

"Where does it say that you have a contract with G-d to have an easy life?"

the Lubavitcher Rebbe



"Failure is not the enemy of success; it is its prerequisite."

Rabbi Nosson Scherman



22 Dec 2013

Living with beliefs - living with passion

The battle for freedom rages on was an opening line in the trailer for Return of the Jedi in 1983. Now the call from the wilderness is return of the Girl Guide and their pledge to God. Select British Girl Guide groups continue to defy the national organization by refusing to change the part of their pledge that says “to love my God”, and replacing it with “be true to myself and develop my beliefs.”

...Writer and TV presenter Victoria Coren said the phrase “be true to myself” does not mean anything, but carries a suggestion of something “utterly individualistic”, while commentator Melanie Phillips said the Guides’ change was “nothing other than secular totalitarianism”.

Coren hits the nail on the head! To be “true to myself” is a self-centered concept. It leaves the idea of what you should be totally fluid. Children need standards to be impressed on them, this tells them to make up their own.
Read more: http://canadafreepress.com/index.php/article/60032?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=facebook

Chabad Crown Heights info has an article about two Jewish girls who were groped on the streets of Brooklyn. If I am true to my beliefs that "groping is good" have I fulfilled my Girl Guide pledge?

Chabad Crown Heights info features a photo of a Santa donning tefillin after some yeshive students found out that he was Jewish.Click here to view Picture of the Day: ‘Tis the Season for a Mitzvah.


True to one's beliefs

Adam Soclof interviews the Jerusalem snowboarder "with tzitzit flying"  who was featured on the Wall Street Journal's front page.

Do you feel any added pressure, now that you’re a publicly visible religious figure in popular media?

I feel pressured to try and represent the truest values of my being, and to try and express them in a way that’s true to myself and my beliefs — and hopefully to be an inspiration for other people to try and bring out their truth.
Read more: http://www.jta.org/2013/12/19/news-opinion/meet-the-orthodox-snowboarder-from-wall-street-journals-front-page#ixzz2oBjOExPZ

On Friday, Anti-Defamation League president Abraham Foxman blasted Huffington Post for its anti-Semitic splash page pushing against Sen. Bob Menendez (D-NJ), who is pushing for harsher sanctions against Iran. The page showed Menendez speaking at the American Israel Public Affairs Committee, and carried the headline, “SABOTEUR SEN. LAUNCHING WAR PUSH.”
Read more: http://www.truthrevolt.org/news/adl-blasts-huffpo-anti-semitism#.UrZieodPwog.twitter

Canada has called for the removal of a top U.N. official who accused Israel of having “genocidal intentions” against Palestinians.
Ottawa “completely rejects and condemns” the “appalling” remarks made by Richard Falk, U.N. Special Rapporteur for the Palestinian Territories, Canadian Foreign Minister John Baird said in a statement.
Read more: http://www.jta.org/2013/12/20/news-opinion/world/canada-wants-un-official-ousted-over-palesitinian-holocaust-comment#ixzz2oBikgSli

21 Dec 2013

The best man in the entire world

Nearly a week after 30-year-old Hoboken lawyer Dustin Friedland was gunned down in a deadly carjacking while returning to his vehicle in an upper level parking deck of the Mall at Short Hills, police this morning arrested four men on charges of murder.
Read more: http://www.nj.com/essex/index.ssf/2013/12/authorities_identify_4_men_arrested_in_connection_with_deadly_short_hills_carjacking.html

How many years do you think they will sit in prison. I would hazard to guess, less than Jonathan Pollard.

Two years ago, Jamie Schare Friedland married her "dream man."
Today, as she eulogized him, she called herself "the luckiest person I know."
"I still believe that because I married the best man in the entire world," she told hundreds of mourners who filled the sanctuary at Beth Am Shalom in Lakewood to memorialize her husband, Dustin Friedland. "I was lucky enough to be with him for the time we had — his forever, just as he wanted it.
"He was my perfect person, my everything," she said.
Continue reading: http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2013/12/dustin_friedland_funeral.html

This weeked I read an anecdote in the Hamodia, which I have posted below, written by Rabbi Fishel Schachter about being grateful and not taking things for granted. Let's be thankful for "our best spouse" no matter how many years we have been married.

Harav Avigdor Miller, zt"l, told his daughter once (I heard this from his son-in-law), "Do you know that I thank Hashem that you found such a wonderful shidduch?"

"But tatte, I've been married for more than twenty years."


"Yes, and I have thanked Hashem every single day all those years."

19 Dec 2013

Israeli medical care

Eyad El Sarraj, a prominent psychiatrist in the Gaza Strip, died on Wednesday, Dec. 18. El Sarraj was 70 years old. He died of complications from Leukemia.

Throughout his professional life, Sarraj was a fierce proponent of resistance to the “Israeli Occupation” and vigorously promoted boycotts of Israel. But when his health failed, Sarraj sought medical care in Israel. He died at Hadassah Hospital in Jerusalem, where he had been receiving treatment for more than a month.
Read more: http://www.jewishpress.com/news/gaza-bds-advocate-dead-sought-israeli-medical-care-at-the-end/2013/12/19/

Teenagers who love chewing, smacking and bubble-popping gum may be giving themselves a headache, according to research by Dr. Nathan Watemberg of Tel Aviv University-affiliated Meir Medical Center. His findings, published in Pediatric Neurology, could help treat countless cases of migraine and tension headaches in adolescents without the need for additional testing or medication.
Read more: http://www.jewishpress.com/news/breaking-news/israel-research-cites-teens-chewing-gum-as-cause-of-migraines/2013/12/19/

Those supporting BDS should continue to chew gum.

Democratic Leaks Aim to Scuttle New Iran Sanctions

Rabbi Eli Mansour discusses how we cannot outsmart G-d.

The Torah in Parashat Shemot tells of Pharaoh’s decree that every newborn Jewish boy be thrown into the river. The Sages explain that Pharaoh saw through astrology that the redeemer of Beneh Yisrael would soon be born. In an attempt to stop this from happening, he issued a decree that all newborns among Beneh Yisrael should be killed. He felt confident that this measure would prevent the leader from emerging.

In the end, of course, his plan failed, Moshe was saved, and Beneh Yisrael were led out of Egypt. But the plan’s failure runs even deeper. It was Pharaoh’s own daughter who rescued Moshe and raised him in the palace. Pharaoh was determined the kill the leader while he was still an infant, but in the end, the leader was raised in his own home. He himself fed and supported the man whose existence he feared.

We cannot outsmart G-d. As much as we would like to think that we can control our destiny, and that we hold the keys to our success, G-d exercises complete control over us.

Read more: http://www.dailyhalacha.com/WeeklyParasha.asp


Disagreeing to disagree

Commentary editor and New York Post columnist John Podhoretz abruptly exited the stage Monday night at the 92nd Street Y, after becoming too incensed to continue a discussion about Israel.
Read more: http://nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2013/12/john-podhoretz-storms-off-stage-at-92nd-street-y.html

Jane Eisner wrote about her take on the evening.

Of course, I expected a feisty evening when the venerable 92nd Street Y asked me to moderate a panel about what it means to be “pro-Israel” (their words), with Jeremy Ben-Ami, president of J Street; David Harris, executive director of American Jewish Committee, and Podhoretz. And from the outset, it was clear that Ben-Ami and Podhoretz were going to disagree about everything, with Harris positioning himself — literally and figuratively — in the middle.
Read more: http://blogs.forward.com/forward-thinking/189373/the-exodus-at-the--street-y/#ixzz2nuah7KD8

John Podhoretz responded at Commentary.

Bottom line: I’d had a long day and I didn’t see the point in spending more of it getting booed and shushed. So I left. So sue me.
http://www.commentarymagazine.com/2013/12/16/a-bad-night-on-92nd-street/

Ronn Torossian opines on the evening at IsraelNationalNews.

In New York City last night, there was a panel discussion on “What It Means to Be Pro-Israel.” In an ideal world, one might expect a balanced discussion. What one saw at the 92nd Street Y was three left-wingers opposing one ardent Zionist, and an audience which could hardly be considered friendly to the State of Israel.
http://www.israelnationalnews.com/Articles/Article.aspx/14251#.UrK17KR3vcc

Incidentally, the INN article begins with the following words, "Norman Podhoretz faced a trio of anti-Zionist panel members at the Y. At some point, he had enough self-respect to walk out."
Can you please change "Norman" to "John"? After all, there is a 30 year age difference between the two men so it shouldn't be difficult to identify which one is which.

To a different topic,  Francesca Kaplan Grossman writes about her feelings of wanting to celebrate every year in December the Jewish counterpart to Chanukah, only to find that she doesn't want to, now that she is married with her own children. She writes how she learned why it is important that she doesn't have a tree.

It took me more than 30 years to really get it. That being able to live with out it – because of, not in spite of, who I actually am, is really the important part.
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/12/18/my-half-jewish-child-wants-christmas-i-dont-anymore/?_r=0

18 Dec 2013

Giving it away - giving it back

A Canadian man who just won $40 million in the Lotto Max jackpot has big plans for his newfound wealth: giving all the money away to charity.
Tom Crist told Canadian news station CTV that he planned to give away all the prize money to different charities and organizations he chooses, including cancer research.
Continue reading: http://gma.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/lotto-jackpot-winner-decides-something-drastic-winnings-183548469--abc-news-topstories.html?vp=1

There are over 5000 comments posted at the end of the article offering unsolicited advice and thoughts including, "Its nice that he is giving it all to charity, but it is a shame that that money is going to line the pockets of the directors of the charities."


Chadrei Charedim has reported about an ultra-Orthodox resident of Bnei Brak who found a bag of diamonds worth 200 thousand dollars not far from the Diamond Bourse in Ramat Gan. He was able to return it to the diamond merchant who had lost the bag.

The young man said that this was the education with which he was raised. He did not have a moment where he was tempted to take it because he was brought up with the values that he won't touch something that isn't his.

The older diamond merchant was pleasantly surprised that the young man had returned the bag. He called him a tzaddik and gave him a monetary reward as a token of appreciation.
http://www.bhol.co.il/article.aspx?id=62682

Requests

Thanks to Penn State Harrisburg for heeding the call.

The Natural History Museum of Los Angeles County on Monday removed a controversial quote from its Nature Lab exhibit.
The quote, which was put up at the request of an anonymous donor, read:
"The Nature Lab is a gift to Los Angeles to celebrate all of God's creatures and enable NHM to broaden our understanding of the natural world through the process of scientific discovery.' Anonymous Donor - 2013 "
The use of the phrase "God's creatures" angered some scientists, including University of Chicago Department of Ecology and Evolution professor Jerry Coyne.
http://www.scpr.org/news/2013/12/16/40978/natural-history-museum-removes-quote-referring-to/

How many times have we heard this?  Moshe knew even before Hashem sent him back  to Mitzrayim to take out Bnei Yisrael, that he would not be zocheh to go into Eretz Yisrael. Moshe tells Hashem (Shemos 4:13), "Shlach Na B'Yad Tishlach."   Rashi explains that Moshe said, "Don't send me since I will not lead them to Eretz Yisrael."  Yet at the end of the parsha (6:1 Rashi "Ata Sir'eh") Hashem tells Moshe, "Because you complained about the way I treat Bnei Yisrael, you will only see them redeemed from Paroh and not the conquest of Eretz Yisrael."  Then again in Parshas Chukas (20:12) Hashem tells Moshe that his punishment for hitting the rock is that he would not be allowed into Eretz Yisrael.  How many times is Moshe going to be  punished with the same punishement?

The Maskil L'Dovid answers that this is similar to our yearly G'zar Din.  On Rosh HaShana Hashem decides our fate.  We then have until Yom Kippur to change it before it is sealed.  After it is sealed, it is not over yet.  Only on Hoshana Rabba is it double sealed and placed in the envelope.  Even then, the envelope is not given to the malachim whose task it is to carry out the Din, until Shmini Atzeres.

Moshe knew that his fate was not to go into Eretz Yisrael.   When he complained, his fate was sealed.  After he hit the rock, it was double sealed.  However, the envelope was still not given to the malachim.  This is why, in Parshas V'aEschanan, we find Moshe pleading to Hashem not to finalize his fate.

No matter your plight, there is always place for hope, tshuva, and tefila.
http://revach.net/parshas-hashavua/life-lessons/Parshas-Shemos-And-For-This-Moshe-Didnt-Go-To-Eretz-Yisroel/3283
 

17 Dec 2013

Gam Zu L'Tova

How many of us would view getting lost in the wilderness for five days in the freezing cold as a blessing? I guess people who have a strong faith that G-d does everything for the best.

One individual's family views a harrowing ordeal as a blessing in disguise.

A 67-year-old grandfather who ran out of gas while driving his pickup truck through the freezing cold southern Washington wilderness has been found alive five days after he disappeared. And his ordeal may have saved his life, his family said today.

After Dick Sturm was rescued last Friday he was hospitalized and received a CAT scan that revealed a brain tumor and cranial bleeding...
...his daughter said the tumor might not have been found if he hadn’t gotten lost.
Continue reading: http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/12/washington-man-lost-in-woods-gets-blessing-in-disguise-from-ordeal/

A Boston Marathon victim reflects on the worst day of his life. His hospital stay resulted in his getting acquainted with a nurse to whom he recently proposed.

"April 15 was one of the worst days of my life," James Costello, of Malden, writes in a Facebook post. "I soon wondered why and for what reason this had happened."
Eight months later, Costello would find the answer.
Read more: http://www.wcvb.com/news/local/metro/boston-marathon-victim-engaged-to-spaulding-nurse/-/11971628/23503832/-/abc0v0/-/index.html

Daniel Estrin has written an article titled New calls for Jewish prayer at Jerusalem holy site.

Rabbi Chaim Richman of the Temple Institute, a group that has for years been advocating for Jewish prayer at the site, said police often harass and remove Jews who recite prayers.
"I'm asking for the right to move my lips," Richman said.
An aide to Israel's Deputy Religious Affairs Minister Eli Ben-Dahan said the ministry has drafted a proposal allowing for limited Jewish prayer in the compound.
"We see great importance to allow equality in freedom of religion," said Idit Druyan, the aide. "There is no reason why one religion is allowed and another religion is not."
Read more: http://news.yahoo.com/calls-jewish-prayer-jerusalem-holy-170136823.html


On aging

Anyone interested in living to a ripe old age?

Matzav has an article titled Today’s Yahrtzeits & History - 14 Teves.

The article ends with the following words.

· Mrs. Miriam Dier in New York at the age of 103 years. Her grandson said that her longevity due to her never being critical of another person, she would greet everyone with sever ponim yafos, and that she possessed an inimitable Simchas HaChaim, despite the sufferings and illnesses that she had experienced in her life.http://matzav.com/todays-yahrtzeits-history-14-teves-5#more-96371

The NYPost has an article titled Botox losing face amid celeb backlash.

Julia Roberts, 46, has dissed Botox, saying, “I want my kids to know when I’m happy and when I’m confounded.”

...But it does appear that Botox’s moment in the sun as wrinkle-eraser-to-the-stars may be waning. As Roberts put it: “Your face tells a story, and it shouldn’t be a story about your drive to the doctor’s office.”
http://nypost.com/2013/12/16/a-decade-after-its-rise-to-fame-botox-is-showing-signs-of-age/

There's an interesting short clip and article in Hebrew about the snow in Israel over here.