This afternoon, the Machzikei Hadas community in Antwerp conducted a beautiful ceremony for the new Chief Rabbi of the kehillah. One of the things the Rav spoke about was how we have to be careful with what we say when we are asked about shidduchim. The Rav said that our words can be boneh olamot or machriv olamot. (buid worlds or destroy worlds.)
The other day I listened to a lecture by Rabbi Wallerstein in which he related how a single girl had given bad information which put an end to a shidduch. Rabbi W. told her that she let personal issues get in the way when she related the information. Had she really been well intentioned, she would have asked a Rav if the information could be divulged.
Words kill. Once spoken, they are hard to retract.
As we read Parshat Metzora this week, let us be wary in our speech and help build worlds instead of destroying them.