בס׳ד

"Where does it say that you have a contract with G-d to have an easy life?"

the Lubavitcher Rebbe



"Failure is not the enemy of success; it is its prerequisite."

Rabbi Nosson Scherman



23 Apr 2009

Cinder-Ella

"Once upon a time, there was a girl called Ella. She was very poor and miserable because she was scared that nobody would marry her. She was too poor to own a bed, so she spent a lot of time crying in her fireplace, so everyone called her Cinder-Ella. One day there was a big chagigah in town and Cinder-Ella davened that she should meet her Chosen there. Her biggest problem (a rachmanus) was that she didn't have anything to wear. In the end, she went to the local gemach and borrowed a beautiful gown and went to the chagigah. Indeed, her soon-to-be-Chosen was there, he noticed her and sought her out via matchmakers, who in turn contacted Cinder-Ella, who agreed to go out with him and they liked each other and got married. He was the richest boy in town and after that she never had reason to cry in the fireplace anymore and started a gemach of her own.

Moral of the story: If you don't get up and do something about your sad situation, then nothing will change."
published in Mishpacha magazine

Being a realist(actually a pessimist), I have another ending to the story. The glass slipper didn't fit, so poor Cinder-Ella returned to her fireplace. As the years flew by, and her single status hadn't changed, she continually said, "I don't know why I am still single. But, what I do know is that all is according to G-d's master plan and gam zu letova, everything is for the best. I thank you, Hashem for giving me this nisayon, as it is an opportunity for spiritual grwoth."

1 comment:

  1. Are you suggesting that after one episode of failure Cinderella just gave up on any additional "hishtadlus" and left her fate in G-d's hands? Maybe her nisayon was to keep on trying and eventually achieve success.

    In the immortal words of Winston Churchill, "Never, never, never give up!" - which merely paraphrases our very own Chazal, "Yagati V'lo Matzasi - Al Taamin." One who says, "I have toiled but have not achieved" is not to be believed.

    We cannot sit back and wait for G-d's miracles. G-d rewards those who work diligently in pursuit of a goal but place their faith in G-d to bring their efforts to fruition.

    This is the Jewish way.

    Forgive me for taking "umbrage" at your postscript, but it's not for naught that they call me "Umbr-Ella."

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